Lust: Erotic Fantasies For Women Book Erotica AnthologyI love to read, and sometimes I need material that’s a little more explicit and titillating than my usual literary fiction. I think erotica is often best enjoyed in short story format, which is why I requested a copy of Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women from GoodVibes.com to review. Edited by Violet Blue and published by Cleis Press, the stories in this paperback showcase various sexy scenarios all keeping with the lust theme.

Lust contains an introduction by the editor, 17 erotic short stories, as well as “About the Authors” and “About the Editor” sections. All of the stories are well written and have convincing characters, with a variety of personalities and perspectives. Many of the stories focus on heterosexual couples, and there are some featuring lesbian, bisexual, and group sex. If you’re looking for anything more extreme than some spanking and BDSM then most of the stories might be too tame for you, but the sex is consistently hot throughout.

Lust: Erotic Fantasies For Women Book Erotica AnthologyRather than summarize each story, I’d rather highlight my favorites.

“Golden Hand” is the first story in the book, and it’s about an anonymous encounter between a horny female pickpocket and her target. When she slips her hand down his pocket to grab what she thought was a wallet, they both get a thrill on the subway ride. I loved this one because it’s a scenario I never would have considered, and the author does a great job of giving us a glimpse into each character’s mind.

Following that is “Ripe Fruit” about some juicy summer fun between a college student and the hot actor who visits the produce stand she’s running. It took me a few pages to get into this one because it involves overripe fruit, and I don’t think sticky sweet goo is all that sexy. But, the characters have such chemistry, and I could appreciate the whole literary symbolism of ripe fruit and sex. It is a fantasy, after all, and once I realized that worrying about the possibility of her getting a raging yeast infection was pointless, I was able to really enjoy the story.

“Coffee Shop Boy” is another favorite, about two coffee shop regulars, and it appeals to my romantic side. Thanks to the author writing from both perspectives, we know what the characters think and their desire for each other, which helps to build up the anticipation and sexual tension. This one ends just a touch on the sappy side, which isn’t what I was expecting, but the sex in it is still dang hot.

I loved “Moving” because the characters were so real, and there’s a lot going on in such a brief story. I also love it because not just twenty-somethings have hot sex, and as this one proves, erotic stories don’t have to be about young people. It focused on a mature man and woman in the process of moving, both literally and figuratively, and desire brings them together. It’s also a moving story (sorry, but it is, and I couldn’t resist).

Of course “Satisfaction Guaranteed” would make my list of favorites because it takes place in a sex toy shop! A shy customer gets some hands-on help from a forward salesman. I found his sex toy knowledge and ability very sexy, and I’m all for women exploring their sexuality in as many ways as they wish. This story reminded me of that hot scene in One Size Fits All when the shop assistant goes above and beyond the call of duty when he “helps” a customer in the dressing room.

You can get Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women from GoodVibes.com. They have a great selection of books and DVDs, both educational titles and erotica, as well as stream-to-own, download, and pay-by-minute options for adult movies and video.

Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women book

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Babeland sent me The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women by Mikaya Heart to review an embarrassingly long time ago. Really, I should have had this review posted way before now, but the book took me ages to finish–not because it’s boring or unpleasant to read, as it’s actually quite insightful and well written. It’s just that I thought I’d get it read over the holidays, since that’s when I tend to do a lot of reading. Unfortunately, I neglected to consider that I usually read on my Kindle, and this isn’t the sort of book cover I can flash open just any time I feel like perusing a few chapters.

Published by Cleis Press, The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women has 248 pages, a forward by Violet Blue, a comprehensive list of resources, information about safer sex, and a helpful questionnaire in the appendices, as well as an index. I note the presence of an index because for me the lack of one is often a deal breaker. I like to be able to find the information I’m looking for quickly and easily, and a few times I’ve been seriously disappointed in what was otherwise a fantastic book, only to find that nobody bothered to include an index.

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There are 11 chapters covering the subject of female orgasm from just about every angle imaginable, starting with what the author defines as the facets of sexual play (communication, laughter, and acceptance of diversity) before moving on to the basics of  anatomy, and then covering other topics like masturbation, the many ways orgasms can be experienced (namely physically, energetically, and spiritually), early sexual experiences, and relationships. The later chapters focus on penetration, G-spot stimulation, female ejaculation, fisting, and anal sex.

The information contained in this book is useful, accurate, and presented well. From the beginning Heart does her best to debunk the myth of a “definitive orgasm” by citing facts and research, and throughout the book there are quotes from women describing their various experiences relating to orgasm. I think the author is trying to demonstrate the many different ways women can orgasm, and the diverse range of feelings and sensations associated with their arousal and orgasm. The bottom line here is that everybody orgasms their own way, and there’s no such thing as a wrong way to have an orgasm. This should be reassuring to women who find that their sexual experiences don’t quite match what they’ve read, seen, or heard should be happening.

Heart stresses the importance of masturbation as a way of tuning into and learning your own body so that you’re more able to communicate your needs to your partner. While she does mention the use of sex toys and vibrators as useful tools to help a woman achieve orgasm and/or experience different kinds of stimulation, she recommends touching yourself with your own hands so that you can truly feel what your body is doing and how it responds.

If you’re looking for a guide that gives you an exact scientific or more formulaic method for achieving orgasm (e.g., “stimulate clitoris in a circular motion for X minutes”) then this isn’t that book. Sure, there are plenty of useful tips, suggestions, and techniques, but the focus is more on letting go, learning about your body, communicating with your partner, and doing what feels good to you in order to attain sexual satisfaction. I did find the sections on Tantra and Kundalini very helpful, as well as the information on using breath and meditation. Personality-wise, I’m someone who has very little patience, and those are techniques I’ve started to explore, in the hope that such exercises will improve my life overall, not just sexually.

I think this book is a great place to start for women who are looking to improve their sex life, whether they already have orgasms or not. Healing and recovering from bad early sexual experiences and abuse is also addressed throughout the book, and I think the author really wants every women to have the ability to enjoy her body and sex life to the fullest, regardless of background and cultural expectations. Even those who have already let all that baggage go and know about the importance of communication, being in the moment, and allowing our bodies to do what they do could pick up some useful tips and information. There’s always more to learn.

Rachel Rabbit is Rarin' to Go Erotica Book ReviewEarlier this month I received an email from Jillian Black, the author of Rachel Rabbit is Rarin’ to Go! This is a fun book about the sexual adventures of a woman named Felicia and her rabbit vibrator named Rachel. The sex scenes aren’t the hottest I’ve read, but I love the lighthearted tone, complete with a little comedy and some clever puns.

The book opens with Rachel being shipped from the sex toy warehouse out to Felicia, who manages to establish a telepathic connection with her new vibe, enabling them to communicate and understand each other. This ability of theirs allows for some funny moments and reminds me of that Steve Martin movie The Man With Two Brains. Perhaps that’s why I found this book to be more amusing than arousing. Still, there are some good sex scenes, as each chapter describes a different encounter.

Felicia herself is a very successful and ambitious business women, who is also extremely attractive, so she doesn’t suffer from a lack of sexual opportunities. Nor is she afraid of her sexuality, and she’s free to openly enjoy it. I love this! It tears through the whole notion that only desperate women who can’t get a man resort to using vibrators.

Felicia grows very fond of Rachel and ends up taking the sex toy with her everywhere. As the book title suggests, the rabbit vibe is always eager and willing to join in on whatever activity Felicia gets up to, with the exception of one rather daunting partner. Since Rachel is used while Felicia is having sex with other people, the stories show how vibes are there to enhance partner sex, not replace it.

Right from the beginning, the descriptions of Rachel made me try and guess which model rabbit vibe she was supposed to be, as she sounded a lot like Jopen’s Vanity Vr10. At the very end of the book, we find out that Rachel is in fact a Vanity vibe, and there’s a handy coupon code to save some money if you want to order one for yourself.

Playing With Fire Collection of Erotic Short Stories

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I’ve so far talked about various types of sex toys, lube, and informational adult books, but until now I haven’t reviewed any erotica. Recently GoodVibes.com offered Playing With Fire up for review,  which is a collection of 23 short stories that all have heat as a common theme. I hadn’t read any new erotica in a while, so I decided to request it.

Published by Cleis Press and edited by Alison Tyler, the scenes and content in Playing With Fire go beyond what you’ll find in an everyday romance novel. The sex acts in these short stories are full of passion and desire, with a ample fantasy and just enough touch of taboo. All of the couples featured are heterosexual, with threesomes happening in some of the stories.

Playing With Fire Erotica

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A variety of writers contributed to this collection, and brief author bios are included in the back of the book. The writing styles vary from direct narration to symbolic imagery that’s almost surreal, but the standard themes are covered: bondage, wife swapping, cuckolding, spanking, fantasy fulfillment, anonymous hook-up sex, sheer animalistic lust, etc.

I actually enjoyed reading all of the stories, with the exception of “Burned” which I found to be totally confusing. It’s one of those story-within-a-story type pieces about threesomes gone wrong and parallel love triangles, or something. But I’d like to point out a few of my favorites.

  • One Hundred Degrees in the Shade” is a titillating story of a couple trying to beat the heat of summer with a broken air conditioning. The sexual tension builds as they wait for rainstorms to cool them down.
  • One Hot Slut” is a first-person monologue of a wife preparing to seduce her husband when he gets home. She goes into detail about what she’s scheming and her expectations for the night, which ultimately doesn’t go as planned.
  • Where There’s Smoke” is about a married couple, and the wife is having an affair. Her husband starts asking about her secret lover during sex, and in the process of answering his questions, they have the hottest sex ever.
  • In “Just Add Water” a couple realize their voyeuristic and exhibitionist tendencies thanks to the installation of a new shower curtain.

Most of the stories are really short, so this is a perfect book to pick and read even when you don’t have a big block of time. While nothing in Playing With Fire is too extreme, some of the stories explore a few boundaries. Page turning while having sex or enjoying some solo play time isn’t really practical, but I often read erotica to help me get in the mood, and many stories are useful inspiration.

An aphrodisiac cookbook

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I’m a bit of a foodie, thanks to being influenced by some self-taught gourmets in my youth. When I saw that EdenFantasys.com had a cookbook I’ve been coveting ever since spying it at a friend’s house, I eagerly requested it for review.

InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook by Martha Hopkins and Randall Lockridge is not just another compilation of recipes elegantly packaged. This book contains recipes featuring foods that are believed to have aphrodisiac qualities.

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I actually received a copy of The New InterCourses, which is the revised and expanded 10th Anniversary edition, so while the front of my copy is similar to the original, the back cover is different.

The book starts off with a brief introduction and background information, which is really quite interesting. I normally skip over any preamble because I’m the type who wants to start drooling over the recipes as soon as possible, but this one is nice and short, as well as entertaining.

There are 19 chapters, each focusing on a different aphrodisiac, complete with a little background history as to why or how the food is believed to be capable of igniting passion, as well as gorgeous photographs of models wearing the featured ingredient.

While technically they’re nude, the food covers up the necessary body parts, so it’s all very artistic and tastefully done. I think the chapter covering booze has my favorite picture. I love this shot.

The New InterCourses features some ingredients that I never would have considered aphrodisiacs, like asparagus, artichokes, and black beans. Of course, the usual suspects are here: oysters, strawberries, chocolate, grapes, etc. The recipes vary in complexity quite a bit, from the quick and easy to those requiring more time and culinary skills.

InterCourses Ginger Chapter PhotoI suppose this is good in a way, as there’s something for everyone. There is also a resources section, which is very helpful, an aphrodisiac usage guide offering suggestions on how and when to use what, a page on making massage oils and salt scrubs, and an index. Yay! I love books with indexes.

So far, I’ve made three of the recipes, all with good results. The Chocolate Torte with Strawberries didn’t last long enough for me to even get a picture of it, but here’s the Cozy Vegetable Korma (my first effort at Indian cookery).

I also made the Chocolate-Almond truffles, which were the easiest truffles I’ve ever made, and these awesome delights are dairy free. I’m going to try the recipe with hazelnuts next time.

I quite like this cookbook, and I’m definitely looking forward to trying out more of the recipes, but I do think InterCourses is geared more for those who prefer to eat, think about, and look at pictures of food rather than those of us who enjoy cooking it. The reason I say this is because there are NO photos of the actual completed recipes.

While I don’t necessarily expect a full-color glossy of each dish in the book, a few here and there would be helpful as I like to know what I’m striving for. Also, there are no cook and prep time guidelines, which is another helpful element that’s missing. The recipes do list the yield, and quite a few of the recipes are scaled for 2-3 servings, which makes sense as they’re meant to be for a romantic evening of seduction, but others are family-sized.

If cooking isn’t really your thing, EdenFantasys.com has plenty of other offerings to get you in the mood. As an online adult toy store, they also have a wide selection of erotica and instructional books that are well worth checking out.

 

 

Normalizing all women's experiences, Mikaya Heart in The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women provides the information, permission and support women need to enhance their own fulfillment.There’s certainly no shortage of sex manuals on the market. Plenty of books out there help you figure out how to do it just about any way you want. And possibly a few you don’t. Books are great resources to help us understand how our bodies work. The better we know our bodies, the more we can enjoy them.

I realize that not everybody may be ready to explore their G-spots or anal play, and that’s fine. I have no way of knowing where everybody is in their personal journey of sexual discovery and fulfillment, but even if a topic is no interest to you now, it just might be in the near or distant future. There is inestimable value in keeping an open mind.

A difinitive guide to selfloving and masturbation.Betty Dodson, Ph.D. is one of the pioneers of female sexuality. A long-time pro-sex feminist advocating self-exploration as a way to love our bodies and learn how they respond to stimulation, her book, Sex For One – The Joy of Selfloving, is a comprehensive masturbation manual with helpful illustrations. For decades Betty Dodson has worked to take the shame out of masturbation, touting it as healthy and the safest form of sex.

An informative guide to help women find and stimulate their G-Spots and experience female ejaculation.Another leading expert in the field of women’s sexuality, Deborah Sundahl specializes in teaching women and couples about the G-spot and how to achieve female ejaculation. Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot is an informative, practical guidebook with detailed illustrations.

Helpful suggestions for women who want to learn how to enjoy anal sex.Tristan Taormino is another leading sex educator and author. For women interested in exploring anal pleasure, her book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women contains comprehensive information on the topic, including a clear discussion of anatomy, communication tips, and advice on safety, preparation, and hygiene.

Then, of course there’s plenty of erotica to read when you’re ready to for more creative inspiration.