Buzz on Vibes

I first heard about Deborah Sundahl and her book, Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot many months ago when she was interviewed on the Sex is Fun podcast. She spoke about female anatomy and how the G-spot works, stating any woman can learn to ejaculate because we all have the anatomy to do it. I guess the least we can do is try, right? So when Fascinations offered to send me a book to review, I eagerly requested this one.

In the preface, Deborah Sundahl explains that her experience with female ejaculation inspired her to study the G-spot’s role in women’s sexuality. She has produced videos on the topic and taught workshops to help women learn how to stimulate their G-spots and master female ejaculation. She has also studied alternative medicine and spirituality, including Tantra and its role in healing.

It’s important for women to be aware of female ejaculation so we aren’t ashamed of the natural responses of our bodies. In her book, Sundahl draws from her own experiences as well as including anecdotes from others. She explains that women often experience more intimately connected and emotionally closer relationships after “awakening” their G-spots, giving it a sacred role in female sexuality. But she emphasizes that female ejaculation should be approached in a relaxed manner, not seen as merely a goal to be achieved.

Written with clear language and a reassuring tone, Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot is full of information to help us understand female anatomy and how our bodies work, divided into three sections:

The Phenomenon of Female Ejaculation
Part I describes a Female Ejaculation Workshop, covers female genital anatomy with very useful diagrams, discusses the different muscles and nerves involved, and gives a brief overview of the history of female ejaculation from various cultures.

Techniques for a Feminine Fountain
Part II is where Sundahl describes techniques and exercises designed to find and stimulate the G-spot, as well as how to strengthen PC muscles through Kegel exercises. The chapters in this section take the reader through the steps of learning to ejaculate, first without any orgasm or partner involved, then while orgasming without a partner, to finally ejaculating while having a partner-assisted orgasm. There is also a helpful chapter entitled “Men’s Role in Female Ejaculation” that includes “surefire techniques” and tips.

Embracing the Feminine Spring
Part III delves more into the spiritual aspects of female ejaculation and the G-spot, including sections on healing, emotional blocks, and Tantra. Because the G-spot is often a “gateway” to deeper sensations, women often experience overwhelming emotions, and this section offers reassurance and strategies for coping with such feelings. There is also a detailed section covering G-spot massage techniques.

I love how the information is organized. The layout makes it easy to find the relevant section whenever I need to refer back to the book or look something up. There is also a useful resources page, a glossary, and an index (I’m a sucker for a good index). Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot is full of fascinating knowledge, but it doesn’t have to be read cover to cover. Those impatient to get started can certainly skip ahead to the second section and begin trying some of the exercises without any trouble following along.

I really enjoyed reading about the “Ancient Herstory” of female ejaculation. It’s interesting to me how some cultures embraced the power of women’s sexual pleasure while others sought to extinguish it. Sundahl also gives credit to the sexologists who first discovered and studied the G-spot. As it is comparable to the male prostate, sometimes in the book it is referred to as the female prostate. I found the pictures and diagrams in the chapters on anatomy very helpful.

Sundahl suggests getting a mirror, some towels, and a sex toy and just doing some self-exploration alone, in a relaxed environment. As it turns out, there are different shapes, sizes, and types of G-spots, and Sundahl gives tips on identifying your own G-spot as well as tips on  how to stimulate it. There are also self-tests to determine your physical and emotional readiness to ejaculate. Weak or tense PC muscles can prevent a woman from being able to ejaculate, and fear of urinating or inability to relax and “let go” emotionally is another obstacle. Learning to ejaculate can take time and patience, and feeling rushed, pressured, or frustrated will only hold back progress. Getting used to ejaculating without climaxing makes letting go and ejaculating with an orgasm an easy next step before ejaculating with a partner.

I really learned a lot from this book. I didn’t know that while the G-spot and clitoris are basically connected, they each stimulate different nerves, and those nerves cause different sexual responses and orgasms. I feel like just knowing that has made me listen to my body better. I also realized that my PC muscles could be stronger, so no more slacking on the Kegels for me! Even if I never experience female ejaculation, I now have a better understanding of how to work with my body and improve my G-spot stimulation techniques. Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot is worth reading if you’re a woman wanting to explore your body, whether of not you’re interested in learning how to ejaculate.

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